Sometimes I Speak Out of My Fears and it Hurts People

It is the Lord who judges me… (1 Cor 4:4).

Have you ever had someone say something to you that just took the wind out of your sails? Maybe you were roaming on cloud nine, experiencing a spiritual high with the Lord and then someone shot you down from where you were soaring because they spoke something out of their own un-health or fear?
Sadly, this hasn’t just happened to me, but sometimes I’m the one speaking out of my own unhealthiness, shooting people out of the sky as they soar in God’s grace. Ouch, I hate it that I’ve done that. The truth is, we will continue to snuff out the work of the Spirit in the lives of those around us until we give mastery of our lives to the Spirit.
We all have certain tendencies, fears and anxieties that try to steal away our confidence in Christ. Sadly, when we’re not walking in the Spirit we very quickly impress our issues on other people. Sometimes, we even think its our right or duty to make sure they know how we feel about it, because we have convinced ourselves that’s what the Lord would want us to do, when really its just our fear, pressing up against us that’s moving our lips to speak such discouraging words.
In those moments, when someone shoots me out of the sky I have to ask myself, “Ok, where did that statement come from? Is this person speaking out of their confidence in Christ or a sinful pattern they have dealt with all their life?” If it’s ever a sinful pattern, I have to release what they’ve said to the Lord and walk once more in my confidence in Him. Sometimes though, this is hard for me, because something they’ve said to me out of their own fear now becomes a power play in my own heart trying to convince me to be afraid too. This is where I have to fight my way back to truth and not allow myself to get stuck in someone else’s need for control.
Lord, help me to walk in accordance with the Spirit at all times. I want to speak words of life to people and be very careful with how I use my words. Forgive me when I speak out of an unhealthy place and hurt others in doing so. Grow me in grace, instead, I pray, in Jesus name, Amen.

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