When You’re Sure People Are Thinking Poorly of You

Have confidence in your leaders and submit to their authority, because they keep watch over you as those who must give an account… (Heb 13:17).

Why is it that we automatically assume people don’t care about us and that their intentions for us are littered with ill will? Why are we so quick to believe bad things about our own brothers and sisters within the body of Christ? Quickly believing that they somehow have it out for us and want to see our downfall?
Maybe that’s just been me, but I know, I’ve struggled with this reality in my heart. As I’ve grown and matured over the years I’ve seen this spring up less and less, but sometimes my past experiences have tried to steal me away into that same pit of destruction once again.
Maybe the reason we believe people think so poorly of us is that we think those things about ourselves. Until we truly learn how to live in our identity as sons and daughters of God we will always see ourselves in light of what we believe we lack. Therefore, believing that others see us through the same lense.
Impressing our insecurities upon others isn’t only unfair to them, but it can quickly cause division within the body of Christ. Something inside of us fears being known so badly that we try our best to hide our true selves from others. In an attempt to still look good to others we hide behind fake smiles, give the standard, “I’m great,” when we’re really not and try to come across as though we’ve got it all together.
Until we learn to embrace the fact that we don’t have it all together and never will we will always try to run from that reality. In our attempts to mask our true selves, we will project our insecurities about ourselves on others, believing they feel the same way about us as we do about ourselves. We can only be set free by finding our true identity in Christ and by believing a different story about what others believe about us. Only through open and honest communication can we grow into individuals who see the body of Christ, not as their enemy or competition, but as their friend.
Abba, thank you for your love for me. Thank you that I don’t have to hide. Shower your love and grace upon me. I want to be like you, I pray, in Jesus name, Amen.

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